Our brain is the single most important resource for success that we have. It’s the place where all achievement starts, but at the same time the place where dreams and hopes get destroyed because of bad thinking.
A lot of it has to do with the questions we ask ourselves.
So in this post I’m going to be sharing with you 25 empowering questions you should be asking yourself to get your brain focused on the possibilities, get clear on what you want and become more successful.
Why do you need to ask yourself empowering questions?
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Let’s start with the why.
Like any technique, you can get value out of it by merely doing it, but it’s way more useful to know WHY you’re doing what you’re doing.
Let’s first take a look at a bad example of using your brain:
Let’s say you just left a rather awkward situation. Having met an attractive guy or girl, and completely messing it up. Kinda like…. (s)he didn’t run away screaming, but it was pretty close.
If you’ve ever been in a situation like that or another instance where you messed something up tremendously, you might have asked yourself something like:
Ugh, what’s wrong with me?
Which is one of the worst questions you could possibly ask yourself!
When you ask yourself that dis-empowering question, your brain is going to work. Both consciously and subconsciously your brain is going to start searching for exactly what you asked it:
The things that are wrong with you, which can lead to self sabotage!
Your brain may return something like:
Well for starters, you possibly have the worst sense of humor I’ve ever seen. Next you have just about the charm of a corpse, same kind of looks too now that I think of it. You were more clingy to here than a crow for a piece of jewelry.
Yup, you totally creeped her out buddy!
Alright, I admit this might be a rather cruel response, but the truth is that you’ll start thinking about the things that are wrong. You’ll never get an empowering, productive or motivating answer this way.
But one thing to keep in mind:
Even though the train of thought above sounds cruel, it’s not actually a bad answer to get. Unlike what your teachers in high-school used to tell you:
There are no dumb ANSWERS, only dumb QUESTIONS!
So, what’s a better thing to ask yourself?
Instead of asking what’s wrong with you ask yourself something like: “Okay, that didn’t go very well. What can I do right now to make sure I do better next time?”
See the difference?
In this example your brain might come up with something like. “Hey bro, how about you stop yapping constantly, and let HER talk for a change next time?”
What you’re getting in this scenario is a shift of focus from looking at what’s wrong and instead looking at actionable things to improve yourself. This way you can improve your life, your business, your relationships or your whatever the fuck you want to change.
The 25 Empowering Questions to Ask Yourself
Now for the second part, I’d like to give you some great questions to ask yourself that will give you more clarity, let you look at things in a brighter way and guide you on your path to success.
I’ve divided these into a few specific categories, depending on what they help you uncover.
Asking yourself these questions will help you get a better vision of what you really want to get out of life, work, or your business. By asking yourself these, you’ll be able to get more clear on your values and how you’re living up to them.
1. What are my top 5 values, and am I living in line with those values every day?
2. What will success look like for ME?
3. What motivates me to do my very best?
4. What would I do if I knew there was no way to fail? How can I take the first step(s) to start doing that today?
5. How would I define my purpose in life?
6. If I could only earn my living doing one thing for the rest of my life, what would that one thing be?
7. What is it, more than anything in the world, that I want in my life? And what am I going to do about it?
Life is great! So start looking for the things that are great in your life, things you love about yourself and the people around you. Surely beats being a negative Nancy. ;)
8. What do I love most about myself?
9. Why is my life so AMAZING?
10. What makes me feel really really good?
11. Who are the people in my life that I’m truly glad to have? And why?
12. Who do I need to forgive?
Overcoming your fears
Fear comes into our lives in many forms, and they rarely move us forward in life. Fear is what kills most dreams and keeps people “captive” so to speak, not living up to their true potential. Don’t let this be you, smash fear by asking yourself these questions:
12. What limiting belief have I been clinging on for too long? How would my life be better if I got rid of that self-limiting belief?
13. What would I do if I knew that nobody would judge me for it? (tip: Just Do It!)
14. How has the fear of failure stopped me from achieving something I wanted, and what can I do TODAY to start getting rid of this fear?
15. Who are the people that have already achieved what I want to achieve and how did they do it? (Knowing it’s possible and having a blueprint on how to get there can help you get over a fear of failure.)
16. What’s the worst that could happen if I let go of the fear and do it? What do I have to gain by letting go of it and taking action? Is the fear real, or just in my head?
17. What haven’t I done for a long time, that I know would greatly help me if I actually did it?
Ask yourself how to improve
And with these empowering questions we’ll complete the circle again. In every situation look for the things that you can do to make sure you do better next time. Don’t get stuck in the land of the past, and get your feet out of the “swamp of wrongness”. Look forward, grow, do better next time!
18. If I could go 3 years back in time, what would I teach yourself or tell myself to do or learn?
19. When was the last time I did something new for the first time?
20. How did I attract this situation into my life? What are the biggest lessons that I can learn from it to improve?
21. What skill or skills do I want to become really really good at? What can I do today to start to master them?
22. What do I want to achieve in the next 6 months, a year, 3 years? Which skills do I need to learn or improve in order to get there?
23. How often do I find myself doing something outside of my comfort zone? (Almost) All growth happens outside of your comfort zone!
24. What are my weaker points and how can I improve upon them?
Start acting like a 3 year old with this final question:
With everything you do, every piece of advice that is given to you (including mine), every decision you’re making, and pretty much any other situation, ask yourself “Why?”.
Not every piece of advice given to you is good, ask yourself why you should or should not do it.
Bad thing happened? Ask yourself why it happened, and make sure you avoid a similar situation next time!
The way we communicate with ourselves and the questions we ask are an important factor in shaping our future.
Stop looking for and asking yourself about what’s wrong and start asking yourself more empowering questions. Questions that if you can answer them, will help you move forward, and generally improve your life.
What questions do YOU ask yourself? Leave a quick comment below.
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To your success,
Ps. Do you find yourself procrastinating regularly or do you fear of doing certain things? Discover exactly what’s causing it and get rid of your procrastination and fears!